How I Work
Often what brings people to therapy is a need to get "unstuck". That stuckness may manifests in a variety of contexts, such as difficulty meeting desired goals, challenge of self-acceptance, inability to feel a sense hope, clinging to self-doubt, or involvement in an unhealthy or unfulfilling relationship. Therapy provides a space to gain insight into what is causing the stuckness and provides an opportunity to develop the necessary tools to get unstuck and on to the path of healing and wholeness. I use a number of therapeutic interventions to uncover maladaptive patterns, strengthen your sense of self and empower you to obtain the change you desire.
My style is collaborative and client centered, with an emphasis on your strengths and unique abilities. My goal is to create a supportive, nurturing environment in which you feel comfortable being your full self and exploring issues and challenges that may be blocking you from feeling fulfilled and obtaining the changes you desire. In our first session, I will make time for you to tell me about yourself and specifically about what is bringing you into therapy. I strive to understand your present challenges through a cultural lens, paying close attention to your multiple identities (race/ethnicity, gender, socioeconomic status, religion, sexual orientation, ability status, age and nationality), current relationships, earlier experiences, life roles, goals and obstacles.
I believe that change often occurs through relationships. As such, I focus a great deal on who you are in relationship to self and others, which includes an exploration of the impact of both past and present relationships in your life. Understanding who we are in relation to others helps to uncover core beliefs we have about ourselves, our values, and needs around connection. We will also use our relationship as a means to gain deeper insight into patterns which may also be evident outside of the therapy room.
I pay attention to the "stories" we tell ourselves. Many of us have set "stories" that we use to define ourselves and our subsequent interactions. Often times these "stories" have been influenced by negative messages we have received from family, friends, media, and society at large. These "stories" often limit our ability to see ourselves in our fullest and best light, causing us to feel a sense of "stuckness" and/or "inadequacy". Somewhere along the line you may have come to accept these "stories" as a set of unchangeable facts, leaving you with little sense of hope that life can be changed in a way that feels more fulfilling to you. Within therapy, we will work to explore the unique story(ies) you are telling yourself about your life circumstances and rewrite portions of this story to be more congruent with the life you desire, leading to greater authenticity and connection to the strengths and gifts you possess.
I am aware that therapy should not use a "one size, fits all" approach, so I will be sure tailor therapy to your specific needs and regularly check in with you about how the process is going, incorporating other interventions when necessary.